When Your Reinvention Takes A Side Road

I couldn’t wait to move on.

I made the decision to reinvent myself and make some pretty significant changes. It was a turning point in my life.

My daughter was finishing high school and moving 1200 miles away to college. So my husband and I did what any couple facing an empty nest would do; we sold our house, got rid of two-thirds of our stuff, and loaded up the truck to move to the Pacific Northwest for a year to grow and explore.

And that we did. For an entire year.

We sold a portion of our business to make room for new ideas. We even set up a few business ideas to allow us to keep financing our dreams. After all, with a daughter in college and many years before retirement even enters our vocabulary, we knew an online business was for us.

But throughout that year, something changed.

The business we thought we wanted no longer worked. My business desires no longer matched my husbands. Instead of working well together, we disagreed on more than we agreed.

So we found ourselves changing once again.

Neither of us anticipated changing in the manner we did, but we both found ourselves in different spaces.

My passion grew for writing – I have several novels under development.

His passion grew for technology – he’s testing for certifications and systems development.

And truth be told, it kind of shocked us. Because a lot has happened this past year. I’m sure you can relate.

Things change.

The people around you no longer do what you expect them to do.

Your direction gets muddied.

You decide you don’t like your new direction.

And then you’re left to pick up the pieces.

Reinventing yourself comes with a price. And it’s a price not everyone is willing to pay.

Reinventing yourself means you might fail in a big way. You might make a big change … and hate it. You might follow a new direction … and get lost. You might get rid of everything old to make way for the new … and discover the old wasn’t so bad after all.

Then what?

Or is that all there is to it?

Because when we decided to reinvent ourselves, we changed in every way possible. Our home. Our lives. Our lifestyle. Our community. Our career.

We learned what worked … and what didn’t. We made progress to determine what made each of us happy. And we both started pursuing what held our own personal interests in even bigger ways.

We changed, and not exactly how we expected.

But through all that change, we discovered even more.

We really like who we’re becoming in this new phase. We love our lives together … and apart.

We love sharing what we do each day without being tied up in the nitty gritty details of what was involved in running a business together.

And isn’t that the purpose of a reinvention anyway?