Have you ever thought about how the concept of one simple word can change your entire perspective?
There are a lot of words that can do that to you.
Every single one of these brought up a response in you, right?
Not only can they change how you look at things and how you feel before you approach the concept, but it can also change your entire perspective after the event takes place.
Take marriage for instance. How many movies have been created depicting terrified people with cold feet, wondering if marriage really is for them? Yet if you’ve ever been married, you realize that while the concept may be life changing, it’s not quite the dreaded experience many people envision in their heads before the grand event arrives. In fact, in can be quite an amazing experience if you truly love the one you’re with. (I realize that can be debated depending on your perspective, but lets stick with the positive side of it here.)
Now lets look at another word: what about the word reinvent?
Can You Really Reinvent Yourself?
Is it possible? And what does it truly mean?
Up until this time, you’ve done things the way they were supposed to go.
You went to school, got a job, had a family. You know, lived life according to the plan.
But that’s the thing. Who’s plan?
That to me is why the word reinvention is such an exciting word.
Because there comes a time in everyone’s lives when they wake up and say, “Hey, I’m not going to do this anymore and I don’t care what anybody thinks”.
(And if they never do, I think that’s probably even a little bit scarier, yes?)
Reinvention Means A Lot Of Things
As I began approaching midlife, I found myself falling into a lot of the same old clichéd feelings I’d read about before.
I had done a lot with my life.
- Leave job and start business
- Big house
- Lots of stuff
Pretty much what a lot of people do in their first fifty years, and then some.
Yet just because you have a lot of things behind you, doesn’t mean you don’t want more.
And that’s really what reinvention is all about.
In Reality, Reinvention Can Mean Whatever You Choose It To Mean
It doesn’t matter where you’ve come from, its where you’re going to that matters most.
If you’ve held one job your entire life, changing to a new company can be a reinvention.
If you’ve reached your own glass ceiling within your industry, starting up your first business can be a reinvention.
If your child is leaving for college, downsizing to a smaller home can be a part of your reinvention.
Because reinvention is always about moving forward in an entirely new-to-you way.
And Once You Decide To Reinvent Your Life, You’re In For An Amazing Journey!
Its hard not to go grow and change significantly once you decide to reinvent your path. Because any time you take action and decide to bring something new into play, something old has to go away to make room for the new. That’s a given. (There’s only so much time in the day, right?)
So before you even decide to start the reinvention process, you’re pretty much agreeing to experience new things along the way. And for me, that’s definitely true.
I never do anything half way. I’m all about “go big or don’t start”. I’m either all in, or not at all.
So when we decided to make a change in our lives – reinvent the next phase – I of course went all in immediately.
Sell the house. Check.
Sell half our stuff. Check.
Sell part of our business. Check.
Move 1200 miles away. Check.
Why? Because we could! And what fun would it be to do something small when something BIG could have that much more impact.
But the change didn’t stop there; in fact, it was just the beginning.
You’ll Change In 7 Distinct Ways
I quickly discovered that once I took action in one area of my life, I jumped in and made changes in other areas as well. It seems that change attracts change, and I know I’m not alone after reading many books and articles about other people reinventing their lives too.
Because change doesn’t happen when you hear about a concept for the first time. Real change occurs when you take action – when you sign up for a class, when you sign a contract for a lease on a new place, or when you say yes to a partner you’ve agreed to go into business with. All of a sudden you have to quit dreaming and start doing. And that does something to you. If shifts your entire energy levels to a new pattern. You can no longer afford to think the old way if you have the desire to make the new way to succeed.
You’ll also discover a few others things that will change in the process as well.
1. You look for change
I say yes to a lot more now than in the past because I’m ready to experience things on a new level. You can’t find yourself if you aren’t willing to explore what the true you wants, likes, and is capable of.
2. You grow as a person
You can’t do something new, experience something you’ve never experienced before, or figure out a new path without changing in the process. It all helps you grow and become the person you are meant to be.
3. You focus in on what means the most to you
The older you get, the more you realize some things mean more to you than others. Why watch movies you don’t get into in the first 15 minutes? Why read a book that doesn’t capture your attention in the first chapter? Why build relationships with people you don’t connect with? Life’s too short; why do anything that doesn’t align with who you are?
4. You put priorities on what is valuable
Many years ago I learned to rank my to-do list with a 1, 2, 3 status, only doing number 2s when number 1s are complete. My new rule? If something is a 3, why even bother putting it on your list? I only want to make time for the things that are the most valuable to both my time and my energy.
5. You evaluate what’s in your life and what could be in your life
I’ve simplified my life in many ways over the past couple of years. If I don’t need it, why leave it around cluttering up my space? If something could make my life happier/easier/more efficient, what can I do to add it to my life as quickly as possible?
6. You realize your own mortality and choose to fit everything in
I no longer look at midlife as a crisis. Instead, I look at it as a wakeup call. I no longer accept what is dealt to me. Instead I choose what will take place in my life every day. Yes, life is finite; why do anything you truly don’t want to do?
7. You open yourself up to new ideas
I use the phrase “you don’t know what you don’t know” quite often. If you don’t take the offramp, you have no idea what lies off to the side of the road. If you don’t add the first piece to the puzzle, you have no idea what picture it ultimately creates. That’s what makes midlife so great. The pieces are finally starting to fit into place, and the picture is absolutely amazing.
With more structure behind you, you already know some of what you’re capable of, what you enjoy, and where you would ultimately like to be. With half the puzzle complete, how can you not finish it by finding the rest of the pieces?
Once You Start The Process, You’ll Never Be The Same Again
In many ways, reinvention is kind of like that potato chip you just can’t put down. Once you make one change, you’ll want the next one that much more. Once you see what you’re capable of, you’ll know you can handle even difficult tasks a little easier.
You’ll trust your responses more, and you’ll agree to move forward, even if something scares you to death.
What’s the worst that could happen?
Isn’t That Truly The Way You Want It To Be?
Really, what’s the worst that could happen? Amazing things happen when we as women say “YES” to our dreams.
And if we don’t take the first step now, we’ll never know all we’re truly capable of doing.
What’s Holding You Back?
What right now is holding you back from doing all and being all you can be? What’s holding you back from reinventing your life, and undertaking the one thing you truly desire?
As we approach the New Year, there’s never a better time for committing to making a change. Committing takes you to the next level; it makes it more real; more doable. You push the odds in your favor of seeing something through to completion.
Have you always wanted to start your own business? Or make your part time income business (your hobby business) into a full time career that brings in six figures or more? Make this the year you finally see it through.
Let’s talk before the end of the year, and see what’s holding you back from accomplishing all you can. I have four coaching spots open for January, and I’d love to have you fill one of them. Imagine all you could accomplish if we put our minds together and make it happen!