Think small things don’t matter?
What if a surgeon makes a cut a few millimeters too deep?
Or a pilot tries to land a plane a few feet from the runway?
Some things matter. And in some cases, certain things matter more than others.
Imagine being too busy to attend your child’s events. You miss the soccer games and the band concerts. You push aside vacation time because you have to get things done.
Think your child will remember as an adult when they are off on their own?
Imagine being unavailable for your spouse. It’s his turn to take the kids so you can care for your aging parent. You run. And run. And run. Until one day you look at each other and wonder what you ever saw in each other.
Small things become big things if they aren’t corrected. ALWAYS!
- He’ll understand.
- I’ll do it later.
- They won’t remember.
- What’s the big deal?
You know when you’ve reached your breaking point when you start using phrases to convince yourself nothing is wrong.
But something is. You know it.
Now, what do you do about it?
Life is busy. Don’t think someone who makes it look easy has a less busy life than you. It’s simply not true.
They’ve just mastered the skill of organizing it in many different ways.
We each have different activities of varying degrees of priority that take place each day. The trouble is, most of us fall into the “like” and “dislike” way of sorting them. We do the things we like and push aside those that fall under dislike. We lose sight of what is important and focus on doing tasks we enjoy.
What if you refocused and made “important” and “not important” priorities instead?
No one cares about your success more than you do. If you aren’t responsible enough to change your life and only focus in on what’s truly important, you’ll lose out over time.
How are you organizing your days right now? Where are you putting your energy?
Your relationships – are you in meaningful relationships? Do they suck life or energize you? Do you do things every day to nurture the relationships that really matter?
Your environment – are you hanging onto things that don’t fulfill you? Are you in a location that fits your personality?
Your finances – how much do you make? How much do you spend? What’s holding you back from your ideal lifestyle?
Your health – do you eat to stay healthy? Do you focus on being the best you can be? What can you change about your body and what’s the plan to get there?
Your time – what is your ideal day? How are you wasting time? What activities could you remove to make more time to do the things that truly matter?
There’s a phrase that’s circulated in the past few years called “conscious coupling.” I actually like using that phrase in different ways.
When you’re conscious, you are present. You are aware of everything you do. You put reason into it all before you make decisions.
It’s not about doing more; it’s about stopping what’s holding you back.
Building a conscious relationship, for instance, means being aware of each other’s needs.
If you want a stronger relationship, it’s not about doing more for each other; it’s about being aware of how your actions affect one another. It’s about stopping the nagging behavior that hasn’t been working, and starting to take notice of the traits you like about one another. You’ll get a lot further by saying “Thanks for picking that up for me today” than you will by saying “You never help me.” Guaranteed.
It works in all areas: your relationships, your environment, your finances, your health, and your time.
It’s not about having more. It’s about stopping what’s holding you back.
Why do most people stay stuck? Because they continue the same behavior that got them stuck in the first place.
They don’t organize their lives to include MORE. They do the same things over and over again expecting different results.
And we all know how that ends.
I know, we’re all busy. I get it.
But how many days have gone by and you haven’t moved towards your goals? The really big goals you’ve been dreaming about for a long time.
The desire to write a book. Or travel the world. Or start that business you’ve been dreaming of. Or find the perfect person to share it all with.
Probably too many.
Life is busy.
If you don’t purposefully take the time out every day to move closer to that goal, then without question you’ll never achieve it. It’ll be twenty, forty, sixty years from now and you’ll be wondering where all that time went.
If you don’t do it, it won’t get done.
It’s as simple as that.
You’ll never start tomorrow.
You’ll only start if you start right now. Today.