Once you decide you’re ready to change, it’s everything.
Really. It’s that simple.
But there’s a problem.
You can’t change what you aren’t willing to change. You can’t make a change if you aren’t willing to quit. If you keep doing the same things over and over, you’ll keep getting the same results.
Sounds like easy enough advice. But many people go through life stuck in this rut. They let things happen without sticking their necks out to make a change.
And if today happens just like yesterday, there is zero chance you’ll get the new results.
I talk about mindset quite a bit in my content. I’m not going to gloss over it; mindset is everything.
Maybe you’ve been working on defining who you are. Maybe you’ve been asking yourself questions like:
What do I want? What’s my purpose? What are my standards?
Where do I want to be in five years?
You ask them over and over until you dream about them. You may – or may not – have come up with your answers.
And that’s okay. That may be part of your frustration.
Everyone else has a purpose, why don’t I?
All I know is I’m sick of this shit, and I want something different. Now! Today!
And then the questions start all over again.
Wherever you are in this constant battle for reinventing your life, let’s get into some nitty gritty details you can do right now no matter what stage you’re in.
Do small things consistently
I love the quote:
Life is a journey, not a destination.
You can’t all of the sudden wake up one day and be the PERFECT you.
Life doesn’t work that way.
Instead, life is a journey where we travel down the road, hitting speed bumps, taking exists and merging onto different roads all the time. When you see something new, something better, something that captures your attention, you make a change.
The key is to recognize this little twists and turns as you go along. Say to yourself:
Hey, I like that. I want to explore.
Then embrace that change. Do something with it. Not something big; something small instead.
Small changes make a big difference. It’s the only way to be successful at changing who you are. The idea is to focus in on consistent changes and improvement in your life, every day, until they become a bigger part of who you are.
Until you decide to make them a permanent part of your life, no matter how big or small.
Stop Doing What Average People Do
You are the sum of the five people you spend the most time with. If you want to change, change those five people.
If you want to go a different direction, you have to introduce one (or two or three) people in your life who have “been there, done that” and use them as your models.
Successful people always, ALWAYS focus on personal development. They read, they listen, they learn, they experiment, they try, they fail, they try again. Over and over and over …
Sometimes it can be difficult to think past all of the crap that’s going on in our society right now. You can feel let down by everyone and everything because of what’s happening.
But if you’re ready for change, you have to do what you haven’t done before.
Following the crowd – YOUR crowd – no longer works. You need to go places you’ve never gone before.
It means you have to overcome fear, reach beyond your comfort level, and put aside the things that are holding you down.
Difficulty makes us grow. Without it, we simply stand still.
“The average person puts only 25 percent of his energy and ability into his work. The wold takes its hat off to those who put in more than 50 percent of their capacity. And it stands on its head for those few and far between souls who devote 100 percent.”
Be the 100 percent. Push yourself to improve. Make yourself uncomfortable. Look past all the negativity and focus in on making you a better you.
How Quickly You Can Find A New You
The thing is, in today’s world, there’s no excuse for not creating a better you.
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When my dream changed and let me down the writing path, I dug in and started learning from the best. I read every book I could get my hands on. I friended people that were doing what I wanted to do. I went to a two day summit that connected me with like-minded people. I invested in a mastermind that gave me all the help I needed to become successful in my new chosen path.
And it’s paying off. I’m in the process of releasing my fifth romance novel, The Artist. I have three more novels in various stages of editing. I’m about to finish my second nonfiction book on reinvention. And all of it – all of it – is thanks to my ability to dig in and pursue it with everything I have to give.
Life is too short to live any other way.
Pursue your best self. Do it today.