I remember it very well. It was surreal.
I stopped what I was doing and fell to the ground. The world was spinning out of control and I had no idea what to do next.
All of my thoughts jumbled together in my mind.
What the hell was I doing?
How’d I get where I was?
I didn’t even like what I was doing. So why was I still doing it?
How had my life gotten so far out of control?
Why couldn’t I say no to the crap I didn’t want to do?
Why couldn’t I do exactly what I wanted to do?
And what the hell DID I want to do in the first place?
I literally stopped in my tracks. I walked away from my life for a moment. I got in my car and drove. Of course, driving only gets you so far. And pretty soon I found myself at a stoplight, asking more of the same questions? What was my direction? I knew I couldn’t drive forever. So I stopped and wandered around a lifestyle mall near my home.
I found a seat at a coffee shop in a corner by a window. I shoved my phone and iPad away. I watched people come and go, wondering who they were and if they were happy. Had they found the answers? Was I the only one questioning everything?
I sat there for an hour – or three – just thinking. I’m a glass-half-full kind of person, so after a while, all of my training kicked in. Advice from mentors rattled around in my brain. Ideas started forming. I began to see myself in a different light.
I grabbed a pen and started writing.
I’ve followed James Altucher for years and love the way he writes. He continually talks about the power of lists. He carries around a notebook and makes lists about everything. It became an art form. He believes it works because he’s seen the results. I believe in it too.
There’s something therapeutic about letting yourself write. A pen and paper can allow your thoughts to flow in ways your fingers and a keyboard can’t.
Is There Anything Left?
At twenty-five, fifty is so far away. You think fifty is old. You believe by the time you hit fifty, you’ll have it all figured out.
Then fifty hits and you find you’re in no better place. Sure, you have a house, kids, a family, stuff, obligations, promotions, and memories. But at the core, you still have all of these unanswered questions. And now at fifty, you’re older and still are questioning everything.
And at fifty, you’re too old to switch careers. You’re too old to rethink where you live. You’re too old to consider changing everything.
Or are you?
It’s Time For A Twenty-Five-Year Plan
What about your twenty-five-year plans? At twenty-five, could you see yourself at fifty? How fast did it go? What did you accomplish? What would you do differently?
It all went so quickly, didn’t it?
What some consider to be a weakness at fifty, I feel is an advantage.
Look at what you really accomplished in twenty-five years. What if you would have had some insight – how would it have changed your direction? Would you have had a different career? Different relationships? Settled in a different place? Invested in different things? Taken care of yourself a little better?
Well, the good news is, seventy-five isn’t that far away. It’s merely another twenty-five years. And now you have insight as to what twenty-five years means. You can use that to develop a game plan for where you want to be in the prime of your life.
Because tomorrow’s seventy-five will truly be today’s fifty. In twenty-five years, seventy-five will just be getting started in this life. According to many different health and science journals, we’ll be making so many strides in the near future, living to one hundred and fifty and beyond is in reach for people alive today.
That means you’re not really in midlife now at fifty. You’re just getting started.
So use twenty-five years of thinking and planning and come up with your next twenty-five-year strategy.
How would you like to make money? What career would you like to take on? Where would you work? What would you do? How would you introduce yourself to someone new?
Where would you like to live? Are you in a toxic environment? Would a new city/state/country be more suitable for you? How can you find like-minded people? Where can you find your tribe?
What would it take for you to feel sexy again? Not for anyone else – just for you? Take a dance class? Change your wardrobe? Dye your hair a new color? Trade your flats for heels? Invest in new underwear?
Right here, right now, can you see yourself at one hundred and fifty? What pops into your mind? Sick? Tired? Or do you think: YES! I can’t wait! Age is a mindset. If you’re already finding yourself taking things easy and not pushing where you can, you’re losing your “aliveness”. Being alive means being excited about each new day.