What happens when you hit a milestone? You start to ask questions.
It happens when your birthday rolls around. It happens on New Year’s Eve. Or when you reach a significant anniversary.
How did this all happen so fast?
Have you said those words a few times? Me too.
A few years ago, when 50 was fast approaching, I started listening to the way people spoke about age. And I found it startling.
Is Ageism Real?
When we hit 50, ageism sets in. And assumptions are made.
- We’re set in our ways.
- Our looks and health are fading fast.
- We’re not leaders in the digital frontier and have problems understanding what technology really means.
- We’re on the short end of working.
- We’ve lost our goals and passions and desires.
- We’re ready to put our feet up and kick back for the rest of our lives.
- We’re slow at everything.
- Oh, and sex is a thing of the past.
How did we get there? And why do we keep agreeing that this is all okay?
I mentioned in my post Transforming The Way We Think About Our Age a study that shows the way women and men view attraction to the opposite sex. It turns out women are attracted to men roughly their own age. Men forever stay focused on youth, preferring women to be about 20. Realistic? Not in the slightest.
But it’s the way our society currently works. Movies, advertisements, they all tell us that while men get better with age, women don’t. As youth fades and we have nothing left. (Or so they want us to believe.)
Have we done this to ourselves? Of course. We Photoshop the heck out of everything. We go to the movies and see every hero, no matter what his age, end up with a 20-something woman. We hear about midlife crisis where men dump the first wife and head off into the sunset with someone new. Someone often about the same age as his daughter.
And when women have a midlife crisis? We are only just recently talking about that.
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We’re On The Cusp Of Something Big
I think we’re on the cusp of something big. With a little push, I think we can make a change. A BIG change.
We’re changing as a society. The #MeToo movement is proving that. The Wonder Woman movement is proving that. The Pro-Aging movement is proving that.
It’s time to celebrate every year we’re on this planet instead of cowering in fear that someone will learn our ages and judge us accordingly. It’s time to live the best life possible EVERY SINGLE YEAR!
The stories are starting to be told.
It’s not easy. It’s going to take time.
Let’s Live Life On Our Terms!
But to finally to be able to live life on your terms? That’s amazing. To do things because you have the self-confidence you need to make it all come true? That’s fantastic. To be the best you can be? Yes, please!
I believe this isn’t a one-person task. It’s a movement. And movements take everybody. They require people to choose to move forward with a different way of thinking. They require people to want better for their lives.
What can we do?
Be proud of your age
I’m 52 and proud of it. It’s taken me 52 years to become the person I am today. And I wouldn’t want it any other way.
Say I Can!
Instead of saying “I can’t” turn it around and say “I can.”
Give what you want to receive
I know what makes me happy. I know how I wish to be treated. I treat those closest to me in the same fashion, and I’ve reaped the rewards.
Ask for what you deserve
The only way to get what you deserve is to ask for it.
It’s not always your fault.
Be YOUR best
Accept everything about you. Focus in on what makes you YOU!
Do something for you
If you want to write, write. If you want to start your own business, do it. If you want to move halfway around the world, what are you waiting for?
It’s time to stand up and be heard!