What Are You Looking For?

Reap what you sow.

We’ve all heard that saying before, maybe even used it. But how many times do we take it to heart?

Your actions and your words determine the course of action for your life. What you do AND what you say will ultimately determine your direction. I see it every day in the way people talk and the way they act.

Like the twice-divorced woman I was speaking with who hadn’t considered her words and actions when she spoke about relationships. She wants a healthy, stable relationship, yet she consistently speaks of the men in her life by using words like childish, jobless, and non-committal.

Or the woman who is desperate for a new career. She hates her job, dreads Monday’s more than most. Still, with only fifteen years to go, why would she give up now? She hints at being almost insulted if you suggest to move to a new company or start up her own business. Why would she waste the twenty years she already has in that are counting towards retirement?

Here’s the thing.

If you say things like “all men over 40 are immature, needy babies that aren’t relationship material,” guess what you attract?

Or if you complain about your job on a regular basis, “this is the worst job ever, but I have to stick it out for fifteen more years until retirement,” what do you think your life will be like in fifteen years?

Fifteen years is a long time. That’s 780 weeks. Or 5,475 days. Do you really want to spend 5,475 days of your life – a significant number I might add – doing something that impacts you negatively?

You reap what you sow.

Put your intentions out there and it will come back to you every time.

Fifteen more years in a position you hate can cost you a lot of things.

The opportunity to learn something new. Think of all the skills you’re leaving untapped.

The opportunity to make more money. At a job, yearly pay raises are minimal at most. Job hoping and advancement can increase your income substantially in fifteen years.

The opportunity to be healthy. Daily negativity adds up to insurmountable stress, which can lead to any number of diseases and disorders.

The opportunity to be happier. 5,475 days loving what you do versus 5,475 days dreading every moment.

The opportunity to become a better you. Growing into new careers, new positions, even new industries can leave you more fulfilled as you develop goals and realize your dreams.

The opportunity to meet new people. New relationships help you grow. Without movement, you could be missing out on some of the most important relationships in your life.

The opportunity to change the world. New opportunities lead to new things. Without expanding your world view, you could miss out on opportunities that present themselves as you learn and do more. You don’t know what you don’t know. Only after you move forward do you find what you’re meant to do.

Is your creative side left undeveloped?

Is the artist within hidden from view?

Is there a businessperson itching to start up a new business?

Is there a best friend waiting to be found?

Change your actions, change your words, and reinvention may be just around the corner.